Sunday, October 23, 2011

How to impress the ladies

Blog request: Unique and Fun Bridesmaid Gifts
- From at least 10 different brides.


Oh, the bridesmaids. How we love these girls. They do anything and everything for us, and we want to show them just how thankful we are.

But what to get them? This is where the uncontrolled panic and slight eye-twitching set in. Jewelry for the wedding day is usually on the menu. But let’s be honest, these girls all have different tastes in jewelry. Most of them will wear it for the big day and then banish it to the back of the jewelry box. Giant tote bags? I’m personally a fan, but I’m a purse whore. Some girls just can’t stand the thought of another bag clogging up precious closet space. Flasks? Let’s leave those to the boys.

Okay seriously I need to stress that last one- don’t buy a woman a flask. Ever. It’s tacky.

I personally did not have any bridesmaids, but I did have two friends who went above and beyond in my wedding planning. For my snap-happy photographer friend I got a Dooney and Bourke waterproof wristlet to carry her camera and keep it safe. For my fashionista chick I got a white sapphire cocktail ring, perfect for any outing.  Happy girls? You betcha.


So let’s make just one rule for bridesmaids gifts:

When you’re thinking about the gifts- think about the girl.
Not the girls collectively, but each girl on her own. You really want to make her feel loved. The same gift for every girl can be challenging, some will love it and some will think it was just an afterthought.


And as I'm writing this rule I have visions of my email box flooding with nasty grams- But I want to get them Giant Bags/Jewelry for the Wedding/Something to ignite their alcohol intake! 

Okay. I hear you. Just make sure every one is a little different- fit the girl, not the group. 


Bags they’ll actually use:

Sale colors under $40.00. They last forever, hold everything, and are machine washable.


The black bags with pink or light blue monograms are classy and cute- perfect for everyday use.



Jewelry for everyone: 

My favorite Etsy friend. I once told her I liked a necklace, only to have it show up in my mailbox a week later. 

Ask for pieces in the same theme or same colors for the girls, but go with different pieces for each. Necklace for one, earrings for another....



You're so awesome they named a wine after you:

Put on your Bob Ross hat (or hair, I guess), and make a super swanky wine bottle label for your girls. You can order blank stickers and make them at home, or have a printing company do it for you. Pick up a bottle of their favorite wine and stick on the new label. Add ribbons to the neck to make it extra cute. 




And for those of you feeling adventurous enough to shop for each individually, I've compiled a list of random finds on the internet to get you started on your search. Everything is between $25 and $50.00, but don't buy just yet. Save your favorites and check prices on Black Friday and the day after Christmas. And if you buy anything without looking for a coupon code first so help me I will come to your house and cut your internet connection. 

After all, every girls knows that finding the perfect gift is even sweeter when it’s on sale.




The Sexy Chick:

Sexy girls need sexy robes.


A little animal print never hurt anybody.



The Non-Girl Girl:

It’s cute without being cutesy.



The Green Girl:

Made with love from your favorite veggies.



The tech geek:

Sexy gadgets need sexy cases.



The glam goddess:

The perfect cocktail ring- and it’s on sale.


Everything she needs in an adorable case.



The Hippie Chick:

A light, year round fabric in patters that go with everything.


Her work is second to none- ask her to make a custom piece and you’ll be amazed.



But what if you’re a bride on a serious budget? Well not to worry. A bridesmaid luncheon is the perfect way to show your appreciation for the girls. I suggest a Sunday brunch- complete with Bloody Marys and Mimosas. Invite the girls over for finger foods (mini quiche and fresh fruit), drinks, and gossip. Give them each a thank you card (with a hand written note) and flowers to take home.

So remember, weather you're throwing a party or buying a gift- it's not just for a bridesmaid. It's for the girlfriends who have really gone above and beyond for you. It's always the thought that counts, so put some time and effort into whatever you're doing for the ladies in waiting. After all, you'd kind of be lost without them. 

Happy planning!

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Mail call!

"I need an idea for a save-the-date. I want to use a card but I want to word it differently than what everyone else is doing. I can make it myself I just need the words."

- Janelle



Ask, and you shall receive.


FRONT:


Janelle and Allen would really like

you to save   this little card

because it has all of the  

information  you’ll need about a very

special date that is  quickly approaching!



BACK:

Save the date!

Janelle and Mike
Are tying the knot!

August 25, 2012
Invitation to follow

(wedding website)



Stuff you need to know:

Add some color by printing the "SAVE THE DATE" on the front and back in your main wedding color. Or if you're feeling exceptionally lazy, just print this page and take it to the nearest wedding invitation store. 

Keep the font at left justification- it loses its awesomeness when centered on the page. 

Any card stock with a nifty raised design on the front will have depressions on the back of the card. Meaning anyone who flips over the card for the important information will see the backside of the design. (Read: don't buy those cards.)

Happy planning!



Sunday, October 2, 2011

Weddings are fun

Weddings are fun- especially when they’re not your own.

Don’t get me wrong; despite my endless attempts at self-destruction, my wedding was nothing less than amazing.

I spent a week on the beach with my friends drinking Dominican Rum and generally making a fool of myself until my friend (thank you Laura) shoved me into a wedding dress and threw me down the aisle. And when me and my mariachi band got to the end- oh yeah I said mariachi band baby- well then I got to marry this super cute boy. It was pretty sweet.








I know. Fabulous. 

But at your own wedding you’re kind of all over the place. Is everything perfect? Is everyone having fun? Christ I can’t breathe in this dress. Can I possibly smile for another moment without breaking my face? Oh crap I have to pee. What if I have to poo? Do my friends love me enough to hold 300 layers of tulle over my head while I poo? I can’t ask them to do that. No. Hold it girl!

So obviously, very important things are on your mind. But at someone elses wedding… well all bets are off. You just have to show up and stay marginally sober enough to keep your dress on through the cake cutting. No pressure. Just show up and be awesome.

And this weekend, that’s exactly what we did. Jose and I hopped in the car and drove to Jersey for a weekend of someone elses wedded bliss.

Upon arriving to the hotel, Jose set out on an exploratory mission to find friends. And beer. He returned 30 minutes later reeking of liquor and ½ a bottle of Corona.

While choosing between a nice dress and a skank dress, I down my shot of Corona and decide that I will be totally freaking awesome at this party and make lots of friends. Skank dress stays in the closet. Much hair teasing and aquanet follow.

On our way to the wedding we meet other guests in the lobby- one of which offers a ride to the wedding and begins a quite hysterical conversation about her children, categories of snot, and the shame of owning a minivan. Friend #1- accomplished.

At the ceremony I cry like a sissy girl, because no one is watching me so I really don’t give a damn.

Cocktail hour, also known as the tipping point. Go hard? Ease in? Jose orders beer. A man slides next to me and insists I try an apple martini, stating that I should always trust a gay man. And then compliments my shoes/belt/purse matching skills. Oooh, friend #2- let me buy you a martini.

The boys notice that Jose is not wearing a tie, as was his trade off for not wearing Adidas sneakers with a suit. The boys are jealous, and strip off their ties in this small victory for all domesticated men.

We eat all the food at the cocktail hour. ALL OF IT. We talk about football and curse the Gods for our misfortune in fantasy league. We take shots and tell bad jokes… because we can dammit. It’s not our wedding.

Reception- we eat lots of steak and drink lots of drinks. We dance, systematically worse as the night goes on. Jose and Lou clear the dance floor for the one Latin song played. Kirlin takes off his shirt and does the worm, almost successfully. Cake is served, and I love cake. I eat mine and anyone else’s at my table who is not currently sitting in their seat. (Five, to be exact) I leave them the icing as a courtesy.

The rest of the night pretty much followed as you’d expect- everyone drinking and eating until we could no longer fit into our already ill-fitting clothing and announcing that every song played was our favorite song and baby we just gotta work it out on the dance floor. And did we think we were cute! And charming. And funny. Not at all drunk, just totally freaking amazing.

Successful wedding? Well I know I had fun. Just ask my liver.

But in the end, it wasn’t my happiest day. That title is reserved for the day I scarfed down half a pizza while wearing a big white dress, and giggled like a five year old girl in Disney world while I said my vows. That was my happiest day.

Other peoples weddings, those are the fun days. The remember when we did that? Now lets go make out in the corner and dance like it’s prom night days. Let’s get dressed up, stay out late, eat good food and drink too much. Let’s go see people we haven‘t seen in ages and meet new ones who are equally amazing. Let’s go! It’s going to be a great party.  







I love those days.